Tips For Helping Your Child Transition To Middle School

February 22

While most children are excited about entering middle school, some are apprehensive. And, most parents are more worried about the transition than their children. Here are some important tips to remember as your child is transitioning from elementary school to middle school. Parents want to know what they can do to help ensure the transition is a smooth one for their child(ren).

Reading and math skills are the foundation for future achievement, so make sure these skills are honed. And, while grades are important, middle school is the time to focus on setting up good organizational skills, study habits, and internal motivation. This is also a time to focus on independence in and outside of school. Elementary school helps parents get kids ready for middle school, middle school helps kids get ready for high school. You can help your child develop their independence and organization skills by finding a system for keeping track of assignments, completing assignments and turning in assignments. You can help them develop healthy advocacy and assertiveness skills. And, remember, your children are becoming teenagers, they need support for their social, moral and emotional development just as much as their academic development.

Below are tips you might find helpful:



  • Check PowerSchool for zeros
  • Set daily or weekly goals
  • Ask if the teachers use reminder systems about homework assignments
  • Use homework folders
  • Have your child use an agenda book each day
  • Ask to see your child’s homework
  • Encourage your children to read at home
  • Encourage them to do real world math
  • Cultivate a culture of learning for the sake of learning, not just grades


  • Be afraid to ask your school counselor
  • Forget that there are now multiple teachers
  • Over pressure
  • Get over focused on activities



  • Monitor Social Media
  • Better yet- no social media at all!
  • Have dinner together (or another meal every day)
  • Develop healthy household habits
  • Be a good role model
  • Model self and other compassion


  • Be too hard on yourself or your children
  • Have expectations of perfection
  • Allow more than 2 hours of electronic use (combined) a day, preferably less
  • Allow electronics in bedrooms
  • Forget that your children are entering adolescence
  • Ignore social and sexual awakening


  • Exercise
  • Relaxation
  • Sleep
  • Mindfulness
  • Time with family and friends
  • Faith
  • Positive self-talk
  • Time management
  • Learn to say no
  • Recognize when stress becomes depression or anxiety
  • Reach out for help


The Overpressured Student by Richard Weissbourd
Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher
Queen Bees and Wannabees by Rosalind Wiseman
Masterminds and Wingmen by Rosalind Wiseman
Why Gender Matters by Leonard Sax
Race to Nowhere

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